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Caroline Dederich's avatar

Until recently I've always lived in older homes, previously occupied. When we built a new one and moved in I was unprepared for how foreign it felt despite all our personal planning. What was missing was memory! There was no soul in the walls! :) It takes patience and time - as we cook, host family events, burn candles, break in furniture, the patina of memory is starting to build. Yes - it takes time to make a house a home. Time and intimacy.

Amanda Hesser's avatar

So well put!

Sarah O'Kelley's avatar

Congrats and happy settling! 4 years into our dream home and still hanging art in some rooms lol but sometimes it pays to just take your time and get it right :) Some things cannot be rushed -- like settling in!

Amanda Hesser's avatar

Thanks so much! I think we're likely to be on a similar timeline. We have only one piece of art for the house! I'm looking forward to this next phase actually (and enjoying it so far).

Kathy Lyness's avatar

I have thoroughly enjoyed reading Homeward, thanks Amanda.

I"m wondering if the tile in your primary bath is from Heath and if so I'd appreciate you passing on the color . It is the perfect MCM green in my mind.

Your home is spectacular , congratulations !

Amanda Hesser's avatar

Thanks for reading, Kathy! The shower tile is Fireclay Sap Green in matte -- I'm not seeing that color on their site right now, or perhaps they renamed it. It looks a lot like the Bonsai green.

The AI Architect's avatar

This really captures something most renovation content skips over. The gap between finsihed construction and emotional arrival is longer than people expect. I went through this with my first place, kept waiting for that "home" feeling to kick in automatically, but it genuinly took months of small rituals before the space felt truly mine.

Amanda Hesser's avatar

This is encouraging to hear. It's something that perhaps should have been obvious to me, but wasn't. And now that we're in the house, I'm actually quite happy that it will take time. It feels right.

Liz Paley's avatar

Does this mean all the unpacking, organizing and merchandising of everything will be done when I arrive? Please tell me there will be something for me to sort, label or alphabetize.

Amanda Hesser's avatar

Oh no, there’s plenty left. You and I are going to figure out the pizza oven!

Sharona's avatar

We’re fellow Ojai newcomers (from the big, bad city), and honestly, we’re having the best time finding our rhythm and pouring some love into our Spanish Revival home that we’re restoring in this special town. And, yes, it’s also a big adjustment and jarring. When I’m not fully submerged in public interest law (the fight is keeping us busier than ever right now), I’m totally—and happily—leaning into my 'home-making and cooking' era! I keep reminding myself that settling in is a slow-burn journey, not a race. I’d love to trade tales about our respective settling-in adventures over tea and a treat at The Dutchess sometime.

Amanda Hesser's avatar

That would be lovely! I’ll dm you.

Shoshana Chazan's avatar

As I have said before, we "finished" our second/retirement home in December 2024. Now, 14 months in, we are more settled when we visit, and, for better or worse, things are starting to need filters replaced or systems checked - real homeowner stuff. Now, we have memories there, and friends who are returning for visits and telling stories. That is what makes a home. Happy nesting to you!

Amanda Hesser's avatar

Thanks, Shoshana!

Kathy Lyness's avatar

Thank you for this.

Angie R.'s avatar

Congratulations Amanda! I can’t wait to see more photos in the future!

Amanda Hesser's avatar

Thanks, Angie!

Shell Mcb's avatar

Yay! Looks great! Sneak peek of the lengthening punch list was also fun and REAL!

We got to spend Christmas in our son’s SF house still under construction and they’re not even to the punch list yet. Just hoping it won’t go on for months and months.

Amanda Hesser's avatar

More on that punch list soon! And sending your son best wishes... and fortitude!

Carly Foley's avatar

SO SO SO HAPPY for you!!! Enjoy enjoy enjoy!! You worked hard for this ♥️♥️no doubt it will be a home very soon…follow fivers lead! 🥳🥳

Amanda Hesser's avatar

Thanks Carly! Dogs are so instinctive, pure, and clear about everything -- trying my best to mimic, not doing that well yet!

Sarah Craven's avatar

Congratulations on finally moving in. The house looks stunning and I hope in future posts we will see more of how it all comes together. Would be interesting for you to write more about what you say as "infuriated by all of the small issues we were going to have to fix." What was possibly avoidable and what was par for the course in the many project delays and why you still weren't 100% happy.

Amanda Hesser's avatar

Thanks, Sarah -- and yes, I'll be getting to how it comes together, how the punch list process worked, what my takeaways are -- what we got right, what we got wrong. Lots to share!

Sarah Craven's avatar

Also meant to say love those cantaloupe bowls.

Anna Rogers's avatar

I am writing here to express my deep disappointment in your trajectory that has led to the ruination of a local store here in Portland, Schoolhouse. Very upsetting to see yet another private equity disaster that you too had a hand in.

Amanda Hesser's avatar

Hi Anna, believe me, I understand and share your deep disappointment. I loved Schoolhouse, which is why I wanted to acquire it. I can’t say I’m entirely blameless, but when I stepped down from my ceo role in 2022, Schoolhouse was doing well.

Chris's avatar

How much did the reno cost?

Kristine Hicks's avatar

I love the lamps! Especially the lamp with the ceramic ribbon running down the sides.

Şemsa Denizsel's avatar

a happy journey at your new home Amanda! a home is a never-ending project which is both exciting and exhausting. but I'm sure you choose to enjoy all the settling in stages.

for me a house becomes a home when you cook something there for the first time after everyone leaves. I wonder what have you cooked?